Forgiveness is a fantastic therapy that can set you free from resentment, anger, bitterness and emotional burdens. Here is a simple and powerful process to set forgiveness into action.
When you feel resentment toward another person do this:
- Take a sheet of paper and write the name of the person on the top.
- Then write why you feel resentment toward this person.
- At the bottom of the page, write: Now I forgive you for what you have done and set myself free from any resentment.
- Turn the page and write : I bless you {name of the person}.
- Tear the paper and throw it away.
- Renew the process every time you feel resentment toward a person.
This simple technique is really powerful, you will be blown away.
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Hi Steve!
I have just had a fight with someone, and as always we do, I still think that I was totally right!!! But you know, this is really the less important – to be or not to be right – because what really matters is all the negative feeling involving the fighters! Being right or not, you always spend an energy that could be used in a better way. Well, I tried your exercise and I have to admit that I’m not totally cured by the unfair situation (in my point of view, of course!), but I’m feeling more relaxed and less unhappy! As the statement says, would you prefer to be right or to be happy?
Hello Vania,
Thanks for your comments. I’m happy that you tried this simple exercise. Yes it’s not magic, but it does work, and you need to repeat this exercise as long you feel resentment toward yourself, someone or even something. It’s simple and takes few minutes. With practice you will be amazed as what can happen in your life thanks to forgiveness. (if you want details of all the blessings that I got from it, just e-mail me.
And as you say…who cares to be right or wrong if we can be happy.
Bless you
- Steve
Steve, what a “coincidence”! You know, I have just received a phone call from another person, that was not in the fight scene but even though she tried to explain the situation and told me how she felt sorry for the episode and offered her help. This for me was enough, I don’t need anymore that the person who I fought with say that she is sorry. The third person’s comprehension and attitude was enough and comforting for me!
See how small coincidences may start to immediately find their way to your life when you decideto forgive (you may not have completely forgiven the person yet but..you just decided). Imagine what can happen when you decide to make forgiveness and blessing people a new habit?
Thanks Steve,
I’ve been grappling with the issue of resentment for sometime and I knew I must find a way to clear it. It is no coincidence that I stumbled upon your website. Your tip is so simple yet so powerful! I tried it and felt it lighter the moment I hurl the pieces out of the window! Thanks!
Hello,
I’m so happy that you could experience the power of this very simple technique. Most people are looking for complexity in their life. They tend to believe that when something is simple, it’s too good to be true or it does not work. The truth is that we CAN tranform our relationships by just blessing others. We can manifest anything by just saying THANK YOU! And we can heal ourselves and our lives by forgiving ourselves and others. What more powerful secrets are we expecting?
Thanks for your comment I really appreciate.
Steve
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April 20, 2012
Hi Steve, I’ve been going through a lot for some years now and having read Brad Johnson’s Four Laws of Forgiveness which did help I still felt I was harbouring resentment toward a certain person. I have done your simple exercise and it has helped. I think I need to do it a couple of times however to really get rid of all the resentment I have inside. But thank you. Ritu
Hello Ritu,
Thanks for sharing your experience. Yes, you need to do it everytime you feel resentment; it’s not a one shot magic pill, but with repetition it works as you start to consciously take the habit to forgive. Remember that when you forgive, you free yourself from any boundage and you allow yourself to finally receive all the blessing you deserve. Forgiveness is a gift that you make to yourself. Forgiveness, Gratitute, Blessing others are simple processes that revolutionize one’s life for the better.
Thanks for sharing, I really appreciate!
Steve
Hey Steve,
My 20 yr. old son has a lot of resentment towards me. He said that the minute he sees me that he gets angry right away and then lashes out. I asked him why and he said that I texted him too much when he was out with friends in highschool. He said that I was always looking to catch him doing something wrong. I do think that looking back I might have checked in on him more often than needed but I just cared and I was NOT trying to catch him at something. I told him that I feel that he needs to “let it go,” that it is in the past. Holding onto anger over things like that 3 yrs later just isn’t healthy. He seems to always look hard to blame me for things in his life that didn’t go right for him. He is immature and very dissrespectful to me. I want us to get along and for him to be happy, above all. Your thoughts. Thanks!
Hello Cindy,
I appreciate that you’re sharing your experience with me. I admit that it’s sometimes difficult for me to give any opinions or advices about other people’s life circumstances as I don’t know them. Howhever here is what I feel like sharing with you today:
You, me, everybody have no control about other people behaviours. The only responsability we can take is about ourselves. You can not change your son but you can change yourself. And as we are mirrors, when we change ourselves, our thoughts or our emotions towards circumstances other people change or seem to change. When it happens and how it happens is not our problem. They just do when it’s the right time. What does it mean pratically?
Take the decision to forgive yourself. You did what you did, you said what you said. All this is over now, you cannot overthink about it anymore. When you forgive yourself consciously you cut the chains that bind you emotionally to any cisrcumstances.
Take the decision to forgive your son (you don’t need to tell him anything). Just do it consciously. You will definitely cut the chains that influence your actual relationship with your son.
Love him and accept him unconditionally as he is. Even if you suffer from his comportment towards you.
Be thankfull for this situation as you do not control the in-and-outs of this situation, and continue to be thankful for whatever happens.
Now focus on your own happiness, enjoy the present moment for yourself and see how circumstances do change, you may be amazed!
You wrote: “I told him that I feel that he needs to “let it go”. Howhever you don’t let go.
You wrote: “He seems to always look hard to blame me for things in his life”. However you don’t know the real reasons and you may never know. Please let go on the reasons, you have no control about other people’s reasons. They react and behave as they can.
As I wrote before, we are mirrors, if we feel happy and peaceful on a moment to moment basis our environment change. We do not need to manipulate, control or overthink it just happens.
This is what I felt like sharing with you. If you want to continue this discussion by mail or skype let me know.
Have a fantastic day!
Steve
this really worked, i feel like i let go of some of the chip on my shoulder. great idea