It's in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped - Anthony Robbins
I haven’t been writing on this blog for four months. What happened to me during all this time ?
Few months ago I took several decisions that led me to accept new challenging projects; at that time, I thought that I had all the logical reasons to accept these challenges however, I must admit I did not make my best decision ever. I took a path that did not give me satisfaction and was time consuming.
The lesson I’ve learned from this experience is that I mostly take my best decisions from inspiration and intuition. Logical arguments come second and they usually confirm through factual evidences my intuitions. It turned out to be a painful way to be aware and trust my decision process.
Each of us has a unique decision process that combines logic and intuition. However, when times are tough, and we feel challenged in our lives, it’s critical to be aware of our decision process and trust it.
Nobody else can help you with your future but one decision can shape your destiny. Wise decision making is not a luxury!
Become aware of your ideal decision process
There is a pragmatic solution to facilitate your decision process, it’s called modeling, and it means to learn from your best decisions .
Here is a simple exercise to help you do that. Just take a pen and write down your answers to these questions :
- When was your last best decision?
- How did you feel after making this decision?
- What was the exact situation where this decision took place?
- How did you feel when you were confronted with this situation?
- What were the first words you talked to yourself or images that came to your mind?
- Did you immediately know what decision to take or did you feel challenged?
- How did your decision come up? Did you feel that it was the right decision? Did you talk to someone else or write something before making this decision? Did you ponder the benefits and disadvantages?
- If you had to teach someone else how to take the same good decision, what would be the exact step by step strategy?
Feel free to be creative and develop your own questions; the objective is to learn to reproduce your decisions processes. You will discover that your decision strategies changes according to different situations or problems and this is totally normal.
You can repeat this exercise as many times as you need, it will facilitate your decision making and improve your self confidence.
If you have any questions about this exercise, please contact me.
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It’s nice to have you back Stephane.
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Thanks, it was time…
Dear Steve,
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Thanks for this wonderful post. I completely agree with you that our best decisions come from intuition and inspiration and we always have to “feel” our decisions as you rightly pointed out in the exercise.
When we make a wrong decision, which appears to be logical our inner feeling tells us that something is not alright. We will not feel “comfortable” after taking that decision but if the decision is right we will feel some sort of “happiness” and “lightness” in our heart after having made the decision. I have gone through this process several times in my life and I can tell that the exercise that you have suggested if we follow it before taking a decision, we will certainly be able to take the best decisions in life.
After all there is no set rule book for life and whatever feels right is always right, heart always knows what is right for our life at any given point even if it may not suit the mind that always follows a set of instructions that may be right for one but not right for other and may also be situation dependent.
Best wishes. Nice to see your post after a long time. Keep writing and keep sharing
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Hello Pratishta,
I appreciate your comment. It’s inspiring. I like this thought : “After all there is no set rule book for life…” That’s true, we discover our own path through trials and errors, There is no shortcut to the perfect life. However, each moment offers another opportunity to shape our destiny as Life is a just a succession of moments.
Thanks for your encouragements and support